Successful Resolution

Happiness is...

A successful resolution. I can't believe I made it, but I have a full year of happy recorded here. Just check out the Table of Contents!
2011 has been quite the year. I have been fortunate to visit most of Kentucky, Nashville, Houston, the North Shore, and even Jamaica.
I have finished a year of AmeriCorps VISTA in Saint Paul Schools and have transitioned into graduate school and my graduate assistantship. I have taken 12 graduate credits, and aced them all!
I must say, this was no easy transition---it included a new car, a new (crappy) apartment, and a whole new set of friends. Change is never easy... but I'm sure upcoming years will bring even more change.
I have cherished time with my family and seen my man off to his deployment.
I have accomplished goals and organized my life.
I have seen many friends unite in marriage and even more bring new members into their family.
I have a goddaughter!
I have made very little money, but plenty of memories.
I have loved, laughed, and cried enough for more than 365 days.
All in all, 2011 brought happiness in a variety of forms, and now I look forward to a new year with new beginnings! I don't even think I'll make a resolution this time around, though who knows---I may still post some happy in 2012...
Happy New Years everyone! Eat, drink, and be merry!

Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And days o’ lang syne!

Quotes Round-Up

Happiness is...

Quotes. Here are the best from this year, all about Happiness. There are countless others, just take a look around.

"The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet."
-James Oppenheim

"The good life, as I conceive it, is a happy life. I do not mean that if you are good you will be happy; I mean that if you are happy you will be good."
-Bertrand Russell 

"Happiness is something that comes into our lives through doors we don't even remember leaving open."
-Rose Wilder Lane

"The happy think a lifetime short, but to the unhappy one night can be an eternity."
-Lucian

"Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others."
-Martin Luther King, Jr 

"Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be."
-Abraham Lincoln

"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have."
-Frederick Koenig

"A happy life is one spent in learning, earning, and yearning."
-Lillian Gish

"Happiness is not a matter of events, it depends on the tides of the mind."
-Alice Meynel

Rush Tickets

Happiness is...

Rush Tickets. Fond of plays? Care to go to the theatre? Not interested in spending 65$ each? No problem.

With rush tickets, you can spontaneously decide in an afternoon to head over to the box office and get half price tickets just minutes before the show. Sure, it's risky. But is it worth it? Absolutely. Today, a few of us went to see A Christmas Carol, just because. Not only were we able to enjoy a great show, but it didn't put us back much either. Win.

p.s. I recommend this show in particular---great set, awesome blocking, and amazing cast. God bless us, every one!

Recap

Happiness is...

Recaps. At the end of the year we all spend some time planning our celebration to ring in the new year, thinking about our resolutions, and trying to make the most of it. Instead, I like to look back on the year we just had. What happened this year? Who died? What scandals hit the news? How was I impacted?

I can look through pictures and old journal entries. I can see one of the many "Best Of" youtube videos. Or I can talk to my friends and family. Whatever the activity, it's pretty cool to reminisce on how much has changed in the last 363 days or so. Here's to another good year! Bring it on 2012.

Gift Cards

Happiness is...

Gift cards. I love receiving gift cards because of many reasons... I hate asking for necessities like groceries and textbooks and hygiene products for Christmas... I don't want to make Christmas another droll occasion... I know people will sleep better at night if they know they didn't get me something I already had or, worse, despise... I love spending money. Not shopping, but splurging. And what better way than if it isn't even affecting my bank account anyway?

Booya. Gift cards. Santa couldn't have been more spot on.

Surprises

Happiness is...

A sheer surprise. Not the kind where you know some unknown something is coming, but the kind where it just takes you out of the blue, dumbfounded, awestruck, and utterly confounded in the best way possible.

Somehow, after all of my advice, he still managed to sneak yet another Christmas gift into my household... from thousands of miles and vast waters away, he took my heart.

This Christmas was full of all things merry. I truly didn't deserve it. I have so many blessings I don't even know where to start. The holiday was it was very pleasant with good food, fellowship, and fun. And just as quickly as it came, it has past. But not without my gentle thanks. I am thankful for 2011. I am thankful for the little things, and big surprises. I am thankful for you.

Giving gifts

Happiness is...

Giving gifts. Sure, I stress for a few days about what to get someone. But after a little thoughtful shopping and some nice crisp wrapping paper, all that awaits is their receiving of my present, and the joy that's on their face when they open it and find something that spoke to me about them.

I love presents. They're a little token of personal affection, and they are way better than me just splurging on an impulsive desire. A simple reminder of love, hope, and family. Gifts. Merry Christmas!

God bless us, every one.

Christmas eve

Happiness is...

Christmas eve.
Candlelit services.
Handbells.
Carols.
Wild Rice Soup.
Family.
Relaxing.
Tradition.
Love.
The spirit of the holiday.

White Elephant

Happiness is...

White Elephant. Do you have something completely ridiculous sitting around your room? Only at this time of year, only at this type of party---regift it.

Everyone retrieves a present, gets a good laugh, and brings home a new piece of ridiculous. It's a perfect excuse to get together with old friends.

So wrap up your VHSs, beanie babies, or that Buddy Jesus, and come along!

Being remembered.

Happiness is...

Being remembered.

Today we visited my old High School and Middle School. Just for fun. It wasn't until my seventh grade band director stopped me in the hallway did I realize that I had actually made a mark there. He remembered my name, my instrument, and particulars about my family. A real footprint! It felt good, if only for a 3 minute conversation. I loved the feeling!

I remember many of the people who have impacted my life. Who'd have known that it was reciprocal :)

Blogger

Happiness is...

The modern technology of blogger. For the second time this year, I have been able to write a few days ahead of time so life didn't have to take a time out to blog. This resolution has been important to me, and it has certainly taught me a lot. But it will not interrupt life.

And maybe that's happiness in its purist form.

Him

Happiness is...

Him. All of him. Being with him. Talking him for more than one hour, one day a week. Seeing him---really seeing him. Being held by him.

The life of a military girlfriend is no walk in the park. But oh, isn't leave glorious.

It feels like it should, a real relationship with real ups and downs, and more than just the telephone and computer. It feels like love. It feels like the perfect vacation. If only it didn't have to end.

Happiness is this. Tomorrow it's back to reality. But for today, I can revel in it.

Luxury showers.

Happiness is...

Luxury showers. Multi-head. 8 speed. Spacious and warm. Not only am I cozy and clean, but I have just taken a mini vacation  in the process.

The shower is only one of many pieces of paradise. Here, all things are at your fingertips. Including things as simple as gentle massages. Take that, Minnesota.

If only we could stay.

Caribbean

Happiness is...

The Caribbean. Blue waters and clear skies (for the most part). Not too bad, if I do say so myself.

Housekeeping

Happiness is...

Housekeeping. I have never been one to make my bed.

Nor do I enjoy cleaning bathrooms.

This is why staying in hotels is such a treat. These things are done for me, and much more. I come home to fresh toiletries, a clean floor, and a crisp fold in the toilet paper. What did I say? It's the little things. Thank you to all the housekeepers out there!

Mimosas

Happiness is...

Mimosas. Orange juice and champagne, whose idea was that?

What a brilliant way to start the morning. Thank you, whoever.

All-Inclusive

Happiness is...

All-inclusive. If there is ever a chance to travel all inclusive... do it. Any meal, any drink, any activity, and you don't have to worry about the price. You've already paid.

I love it. I love not thinking about anything when I'm down there. I love the carefree relaxation that comes with all-inclusive. And I'd recommend it to anyone. Even just once.

Travel Alarm

Happiness is...

That moment when your alarm goes off and tells you it's time. It's time to get your butt out of bed and head to the airport. It's not like you've been sleeping anyway. No, you have been anxiously awaiting this morning and your trip to JAMAICA.

You can do this. You have run through each and every possible scenario in your head. Twice. You have double-checked your luggage and run all of the last errands. And now, you're finally going to an exotic island, a vacation, a getaway with your man.

You deserve this. After the fall you've had, it's all you're looking forward to. It'll be the time of your life. And your alarm. Just. Went. Off. Get up, get dressed, and head out the door!

After all, "I'm leaving... on a jet plane... don't know when I'll be back again..." :) Seeya!

Parody

Happiness is...

Parodies. Find something ridiculous? There's an easy response. Make fun of it in just as ridiculous a fashion. Mock it, comment on it, or trivialize its message.

Oh and, by the way, HAPPINESS IS BEING 24 HOURS AWAY FROM A WEEK IN A TROPICAL ISLAND WITH MY MAN. The end. Have a nice day.

Seconds

Happiness is...

Beverages that come with the leftovers still stirred up. Malts. Perfect margaritas. I love it all, just give me my next round right there at the table. I promise I'll be happier. I value the sweet seconds, and the extra time to just enjoy my time with friends. And I'm sure all the waitresses in the world value being able to do their job instead of running to get me refills. The world should always be so kind, just hand it to me already! At least for tonight. Now that's perfect.

Paper snowflakes.

Happiness is...

Paper snowflakes. Each one unique, each one perfectly symmetrical. My favorite thing to do around Christmas time? Watch elf and cut out these beauties. Paper snowflakes and paper chains, the simplest of holiday cheer (and possibly the most economical). They take me to a better place.

Playlists

Happiness is...

Playlists.

In the old days, they produced records. One artist, one album.
By the time the 70s and 80s came around, people were making mix tapes of their favorite songs. Compilations came out. Now. Best of. Radios played the top 40 and a mix of 80s, 90s, and today.
And then CDs... and the current trend, in Pandora or Spotify or Itunes or LastFM or whatever your favorite service is. Why choose one artist or one album, ever? Go ahead, round up your favorite tunes. Listen to some variety. Keep yourself on your toes. Find the perfect playlist. Now THAT is music to my ears.

Winter break

Happiness is...

Winter break! It's here at last, the time to sit around, do some yoga, watch some movies, pretty much anything except graduate schoolwork.

This year features two happy holidays, time with family, dancing, and a week in Jamaica! More to come.

First Semester

Happiness is...

Finishing my first semester of graduate school. At last, after all that work, late nights reading chapters, long study guides, group presentations, 20-page papers, discussions, and work on top if it all... I have finished the semester. I finished with straight-As too, so there!

Mommy, wow! I'm a big kid now! 4 semesters to go and I start my career as a Licensed Counselor. Unbelievable, I know. For the time being, I'm happy to just be done with this term.

Lunch Specials

Happiness is...

Lunch specials. A majority of restaurants have them. You know, for the business meetings or lunch breaks... which I don't have. Today, however, I get to meet for lunch and have a soup and salad special!

It's the small things.

Positive feedback

Happiness is...

Positive feedback. It's the time of the year for a mid-year evaluation. And I love it. I know I'm rare in this manner, but it's the truth.

I am an achiever. I thrive off receiving feedback, implementing it, and growing. I love professional development and I value objective measures of performance. I also could use a good pat on the back every now and then. Couldn't we all?

Today the mid-year evaluation went quite swimmingly. I am leaving the semester with a smile on my face and a spring in my step. Hello winter break. Hello competency. Hello continued success.

Packing Lists.

Happiness is...

Packing lists.

I am not a huge fan of packing. I love the idea of travel, and packing adds to the excitement, don't get me wrong. However, I also have too much anxiety---did I pack everything I need? What am I forgetting? What will happen when I get there and realize I didn't bring _____?! So, I love packing lists. They relieve a lot of my stress and give me ideas I wouldn't have thought about. I feel competent about taking off and not looking back.

Wednesday morning I head home until January. In that time I celebrate two holidays and take a trip to a tropical island. So, naturally, this time around packing is especially difficult. No worries, though, I have a list. That solves everything, right?

Yikes.

Words of Wisdom

Happiness is...

Great words of wisdom. Today at church, talking about the importance of trusting God to fulfill needs instead of bumbling through life solo: "After all, sin is when you have a legitimate need, but meet it in an illegitimate way."

Sigh.
Amazing.
Thank you and goodnight.

Crafting Gifts

Happiness is...

Crafting gifts. You can go shopping all day if you wish, but when you sit down and make some homemade presents, the Christmas cheer is multiplied for sure. Knitting scarves, writing cards, baking treats, decorating candy, even making paper snowflakes...

Continuing Ed.

Happiness is...

Continued education. Today in class we were each invited to share a relevant article about counseling. It was fun to investigate extra things in the field, and it revealed a lot of other information through classmates' articles... they were all so interesting, and an excellent reminder of the continual learning within this profession!

When I was in college, I used to say I wanted to grow up to be a student; I guess this is about as close as I could get. :)

Hugs

Happiness is...

Hugs. Human contact that reaches straight through you to lift your spirit and feed your soul. Hugs are the most basic form of interpersonal warmth, and they remain my favorite. They are unlike any other physical contact... They communicate affection, friendship, and support.

It's the best way to start the day, and it keeps me going til the end.

Fireplaces

Happiness is...

Fireplaces. You can choose to heat your house however you wish, but fireplaces have a special magical property. They provide heat but they also provide a cozy atmosphere, dimly lit, crackling with spirit. Plus, who isn't mesmerized by a good fire?

This evening, it made the room. I relaxed into the seat, calmly worked with my knitting, and sipped a glass of wine. It was the perfect winter night, with snow finally predicted to finish the whole thing off. Ahhh, cozy happiness.

Dollar items.

Happiness is...

Dollar items. I head to the dollar tree every few months just to poke around for fun. But every now and then, I find a real steal. For example, a book from my favorite author that I purchased last night.

Or, a quick box of Christmas cards to give out.

Likewise, the entire dollar section at Target. I'll admit that it's usually a bunch of junk, but every now and then there is something I want, and it's only the price of a soda. That's a good trip. I understand how silly this sounds, but just try it sometime. 

Tis the season... for exciting little buys.

Free at Work

Happiness is...

That moment when you get to work and realize you have spare time to get things done. Maybe, just maybe, that means productivity for the day. It's rare in my job, but it's welcome!

Bilingual children

Happiness is...

Bilingual children. Besides the fact that they are ten times cuter, they are set up for success. The benefits of being bilingual are vast, from increased creativity and flexibility to learning advantages... cultural compentencies to higher rates of self-esteem. Not to mention they're simply more sought after for college entry and employment.

I like Spanish. Often, I prefer it to my native language. And it's proven to help children. Ask me again why I want to raise kids who speak a second language.

Mostly, especially this morning, I think kids who speak Spanish are utterly adorable.

Movies

Happiness is...

Going to the movies.

It's been so long since I've done it. Between moving away from family and friends and Dave's deployment, going to grad school and getting totally swamped, theaters have fallen to the wayside. But no longer. It's time to rekindle my love for a big red seat, a tub of popcorn, and a moving picture. :)

It's one of my favorite outings. It makes me so happy. And I won't be neglecting it this season.

Thanks Giving

Happiness is...

Reflecting on all the things I have to be thankful for.
A great graduate assistantship. Free schooling. Savings. Awesome coursework. Good grades. A cozy home. A nice car. Some stellar friends. My loving family. A patient and caring man. An upcoming trip, all-inclusive, to a tropical island. A year with VISTA that changed me for the better. Two adorable cats. Two sizeable closets. A passion for yoga. Knitting. Christmas music. Ellen Degeneres. Jesus Christ. Peanut Butter and Jelly. Losing weight. Silver nail polish. Office supplies. Coffee. Pinterest. Chocolate. Glee. Dinosaurs. Skype.
Everything that I have already posted and have yet to post on my 2011 blog of happiness. I shan't take it for granted.

Thanksgiving dinner

Happiness is...

Thanksgiving!
Turkey.
Mashed Potatoes.
Cranberries.
Creamed Spinach.
Stuffing.
Break...
Nap.
Round Two.
Bring it on.

No alarm

Happiness is...

Setting no alarms. Yes, my biological clock still gets me up well before 8 a.m., but it's a big change from being rudely awakened by a blaring alarm at 7 or 7:30. There's just something special about a natural morning. I remember more of my dreams, wake up in a calm, and just generally start the day out right.

This will be the trend for the next four days. It's a welcome change from the usual in grad school, and it's the perfect way to celebrate the holiday.

Vacation

Happiness is...

Going home early. Peace out Mankato.

Hello Thanksgiving break.

Vacation

Happiness is...

Two day weeks. I love the holidays!

Six weeks left

Happiness is...

Persistence.

Every year, we make lofty goals for January 1st. Exercise regularly. Journal. Travel. Identify one thing every day that makes me happy. This year, I was determined. I did not neglect my dreams, nor did I forget my little resolutions. Since the beginning of 2011 I have headed off on my own, started graduate school, lost ten pounds, visited old friends, and kept this blog going the whole time. Sure, I've had to make up lost days here and there. It hasn't always been creative or poignant. Some days, I spend more time trying to think of something happy than writing my post.

But I have kept at it. And six weeks from today, I will no longer be writing this. I will have moved on. It's not likely that next year's resolution will be bigger or better (365 days of happy was beyond grueling), but I will enter the new year knowing that, if I wanted it to be, it could. I have learned more about myself, have documented the simple ups and downs of my year, and have found the little things. With six weeks to go, I couldn't be happier.

First snowfall

Happiness is...

Having nowhere in particular to go during the first snowfall of the year.

Every year around this time, Minnesotans forget what it's like to be here. They have to become accustomed to snow all over again. In the meantime, they whine, under-dress, and drive like crap. Unfortunately, grad school calls me in to Saturday classes. Today was the last one of the semester. People were by no means chipper... but I got to avoid the rest of the world as we sat in that classroom all afternoon. Now, all that's left is bundling up and sipping cocoa, perhaps with one friend. The others? You can have them.

I'm looking forward to a relaxing evening, cozy and comfortable. It's all I need today.

Celebrations

Happiness is...

Thanksgiving dinners on days besides Thanksgiving.

Tonight I celebrated with the office. We all brought a dish to share, enjoyed each others' company, and engaged in rowdy games and conversation. It felt like family. In grad school, when you see family every 6 weeks or so (if you're lucky), this can be invaluable.

There isn't much I love more than holidays... except, perhaps, the chance to celebrate them multiple times. Food on!

Big mug

Happiness is...

The big mugs. I love drinking cocoa, coffee, cider, what have you. The way it warms my throat as I gulp it down is irreplaceable. And after a long frigid walk home, the first thing my frozen fingers crave is a steaming drink to wrap themselves around. But it feels so much more rewarding when I'm holding a giant, neat mug in my hands. You can have your crisp, white, perfectly flat mug. I like mine whimsical. Whatever the shape, no matter the colors, things are just better if it's fun.
I don't truly believe that size matters... with a couple exceptions.

Spanish mags

Happiness is...

Cosmo en español. 


That is, assuming I can still read in the language.

Finishing early

Happiness is...

Finishing projects early. I don't care if the deadline was extended, I'm happier turning it in tonight and moving on. It makes me feel more competent and it keeps my anxiety in check. I love getting things out of the way, because otherwise you can bet that my perfectionist tendencies will take over before I'm able to do it right. Even when I finish a project, I will continue to proof it until I turn it in at last. Might as well check it off the list! Luckily, I was able to do just that.

Getting projects out of the way also opens my afternoon to work on the next thing. That's the glory of grad school... there's no such thing as being ahead of schedule.

This probably sounds compulsive and overwhelming, but I promise it's a good thing.  I'm able to breathe, and I'm prepared to look ahead. In three weeks, I will have relief. For now, this is my nature. Bring it on, finals!

Themed parties

Happiness is...

Themed parties.

Collecting food that coordinates, decorations, games... it makes the night seem like one fluid event. It connects us to their world, and really it takes us into a different place entirely. It's cute, fun, and just happy.

Elements

Happiness is...

Getting to see loved ones in their elements. It puts them in a new light. I feel honored to share that part of them, and I feel like I understand them more as a person. Usually, I love them that much more as well.

When I went to MSSA  offices or Navy Deployment conferences, I felt more connected. I felt like I had a better grasp of the individual. I felt proud. Seeing the way he enjoyed it gave me a glimpse and made me excited for him.

Last night, it was a ride-along with a good friend. It was sweeeet. Seeing them in action, listening to their special lingo, watching their protocol, and seeing the pride they feel... it makes me reciprocate. You ARE special. Right now, you are the coolest one in the room. There's just no other way.

Knitting Project

Happiness is...

A new knitting project. It's my first knitting project since I started grad school. I simply have not had time; there have been chapters to read, papers to write! However, I seem to have neglected my hobbies in the meantime. Hobbies aren't just there to alleviate boredom (although they often do). They're a human connection to pure joy. Leisure activities. Don't forget yours.

Today, I started mittens (my first pair). Though it can be frustrating at times, I am rejuvenated. I am not nose deep in any theory nor am I revising, for the 5th time, my literature review. I am just pulling these stitches around. That's the life.

Blankets

Happiness is...

Putting another blanket on. Yes, winter is here at last. It's cold. It may snow at any point. In my room, the only thing I look forward to is crawling into bed to escape the frigid air.

Luckily, I have not one... not two... but three blankets stacked on the top of my little mattress. It's a cozy little den under them, warm and toasty as well as weighed down and tucked in by piles of covers. This is a very common source of happiness for people, and I never quite grasped it until now (I lived in the second floor of my house growing up). It's like childhood, safe and secure.

I know I sleep like a baby, at least.

Argyle Patterns!

Happiness is...

Argyle. Fashionable, Fun, Retro and Rad. It reminds me, quite frankly, of Scotland or Ireland. Of beautiful green landscapes and distant places. I am not loving it because of golf, but more so the class.

Just neat.

Countdown

Happiness is...

Countdowns. 5 weeks.
Yes, it's likely that I've already told you this is happiness. Does it look like I care?

Yoga lessons

Happiness is...

Plank. It's a stability pose. It builds strength and endurance. It's as simple as getting on the floor and holding a stance.

It's much like my life at the moment, holding steady and hovering. I get through it one day at a time, and it makes me stronger. Just breathe... you can maintain the difficult position too.

New and Improved

Happiness is...

A new and improved flavor of cheerios.

We all know breakfast is the best part of my day, and there isn't much that beats a good handful of cheerios. Apple Cinnamon. Banana Nut. Chocolate. Fruity. And now Cinnamon Burst. Oh joy.

I like trying new things. I have since studying abroad. It's the little things that make me smile. That's something I have to continue realizing as I complete this blog. This morning, it was a new flavor of cereal. I'll stop there for today.

Fall back.

Happiness is...

Daylight savings time. No, I did not gain an hour of sleep. You know me, it's like clockwork. I did, however have an extra morning hour to make some more progress on this Alternate Plan Paper (thesis). It's not colossal, but it's a feat for me, given my circumstances.

That is the extent of this weekend, though. Homework and more homework. I figure if I crunch enough in the following few days maybe I can avoid the stress around Thanksgiving and such, and I can anticipate December rather than dreading it. I figure if I do my stuff up front I can kick back and enjoy the last bit of my first semester of graduate school. Heck, maybe I'll even have the time to reflect on these weeks. I doubt it though. Maybe that's what I should have done with my extra hour this morning... then again, maybe not. Back to work, see you tomorrow!

Study Buddy

Happiness is...

Study Buddies. Schoolwork is a little easier if I do it sitting next to a friend, perhaps drinking some wine... My productivity is greatly increased by knowing that not EVERYONE is out having fun without me. I have one captive here writing papers by my side :)

Okay, so perhaps a friend and some wine are not the greatest combination for a super productive night. However, I wouldn't trade it for anything---nothing makes my work more tolerable.

Progress

Happiness is...

Progress! With only four weeks left, it's become time to buckle down for the projects and papers and exams that remain. Luckily, I am sooooo on top of this. I am finishing paper number two tonight, BOOYA. As a grad student, I have a demeanor much like many other grad students: total perfectionism. I have extremely high expectations of myself and have always been an achiever. Thus, I am still trying to stay ahead of my schoolwork. It's not easy, but it is completely worth it.

With the end of the semester approaching, the world is in chaos. I am competent enough for this. I am here for a reason.

Quotes Cont.

"Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind."

Alice Meynel

"Hap

Last five min

Happiness is...

The moment when you realize the day is almost over. It's so easy to get caught up in work, and then BAM... 5 minutes left. I love the feeling of knowing the day has escaped me (at least as long as I got the projects done that I needed to). It's nice to know that sweet release is so close and we've made it to the end.

On days like today, it was just about the only thing I needed.

Perfect score

Happiness is...

Receiving not one, but two 100%s in a day.

That's right, graduate school---take that.

Whodunnit

Happiness is...

Murder mystery parties, where you can dress up, be somebody else for a night, and practice sleuthing. Happy halloween! And no, I was not the killer. I was, however secretly related to Lila lavender and trying to get the diamonds with my gang. Mwahaha!

Costumes

Happiness is...

People watching on holidays. I told you I'd have more to say, and here it is: I love costumes. No, I don't care to spend a ton of time or energy or money on my own... last year I just stuffed my shirt and went as pregnant, the year before I went as a newsie (PLEASE tell me you've seen the movie)... but I am so glad I had the chance to catch a glimpse of everyone else's last night. That's the thing about a chill night downtown---instead of being an interesting object, I just got to relax and see others for exactly how interesting they were.

My favorite costumes:
- Lego guys (literally, had yellow Styrofoam hats and claws)
- Male sexy nurse... no, not in scrubs, but in the little red and white jumpsuit.
- Frank, from Donnie Darko. Absolutely terrifying.
- Sock monkey, which is now sported by my beautiful baby goddaughter!

I know, I know, it's not Halloween quite yet. But I have taken serious joy out of seeing everyone celebrate pre-spooky.

Halloween

Happiness is...

People watching on halloween. More to come.

Old Friends

Happiness is...

When you're out with an old friend and run into an even older friend. You may be excited to see someone that you haven't seen in a while, but the chances may be pretty good that you'll see another. Suddenly, it's all nostalgia, catching up, and loving being reunited!

Friends lose touch. Then they look back and smile. Then they meet up and share. And life goes on. I'm just enjoying the ride.

Juice Box

Happiness is...

Juice boxes. Especially the 100% juice variety. I love straws, I love the portion size, and I love the feeling of being a kid again, even if it's only vaguely metaphorically.

Release the stress, forget about adulthood, and just sip. That's my intentions exactly.

Headbands

Happiness is...

Headbands.
Bad hair day? Forget about it. Throw one on and get out there.

Answered prayers

Happiness is...

Answered prayers.

If He answers prayers, He's increasing faith.
If He delays, He's increasing patience.
If He doesn't answer, He has something better for you.

Well, I'm the lucky one who got my faith! My life is yours, Lord.

Piracy

Happiness is...

Pirates. I love dreadlocks, and flowy shirts, and sword fights, and booty...

But even more than all of that, I love today's pirates. They can warn you all they want, but the idea of stealing music and shows is just too glamorous. Ah, technology.

Me Day

Happiness is...

Doing things for you. I get it, it's important to be productive, stay healthy, and maintain the budget. But some days I don't care about being a well-adjusted adult. Take today, for example. After church, I went and bought myself some new clothes. Following my retail therapy, I cooked a party pizza... and I ate the whole thing. Sure, I still went for a run and stayed mostly on track, but after I got home I watched a bunch of television and ate a little bit of chocolate. I deserve a me day. I never stop and do what I want because I want it. Think about it. How much of your daily routine is set up so that you can be a good adult---work, home, exercise, eat a balanced meal, obey the laws of society, take care of your family. I'm allowed some frivolity am I not? My answer is yes. Today's the day.

Layers

Happiness is...

When you take off layers of clothing and feel your skin breathe. It's even more happy when this is something you're doing at the end of October... there you are, sun!

Totally not ready for winter yet.

Ellen

Happiness is...

Ellen Degeneres. I love everything about her. She's kind, fun, hilarious, and downright amazing. I often say I would cross over for her. Sometimes I think it may be true. She deserves it. Who else starts off a show by dancing and then sits down to scare guests, make jokes, and touch the heart?

It's all of my favorite emotions rolled into one neat hour. No wonder she's got Oprah's old spot.

That's all. Watch on.

Care packages

Happiness is...

Care packages. I can handle anything else that comes up this week, because I've got love from my friends. Booya.

Included:
- Bath salts
- Candy
- Journal
- Magnets
- Wall hanging
- Blank notes
- Gift cards

Let's see... what could make it better? Oh yeah, if I had all my friends in that box too. But for now, I'll take it.

You...

Happiness is...

You. Yes, you, reading this entry today. I recognize that there are hundreds of millions of people out there browsing things on the internet, but I know you're following along with my story. And I love you for that.

I love you for that, and for so many other reasons. Just remember your importance, whenever you're in doubt. I value you. It's just that plain and simple. You are more than a somebody.

New Album

Happiness is...

Posting photos to facebook.
Yes, I am that vain that I want to show you every moment from my weekend. I love being tagged in pretty pictures and I like commenting on the events as I look back with nostalgia (even if they were just 48 hours ago).

In case you didn't already hear, I love photography. But I'll take it one step further. I love public photography, displaying my shots, and sharing my memories. I love when others can see how awesome my life is, in short.

Mostly, though, I love photography.

Mylar

Happiness is...

Those little mylar-balloons-on-a-stick. They never deflate! Never stop sending their message! (and depending on the occasion that can be a very good or very bad thing) Sure, you can tell me I did a good job. You can write me a quick heartfelt note or give a few flowers. That's so sweet.

But there's this tiny balloon in the corner of my desk that's still nagging me, I care. It refuses to give up, refuses to be tucked away. In 5th grade I received one that said "Get well"... and I'm convinced that if I hadn't thrown it out when I was packing for college, it would still be shining its beacon. Even after throwing it out, my guilt keeps it in the back of my mind---funny how that works. Who said diamonds are the only forever? Pick up a couple of these bad boys and you'll be on that someone's dresser until they get the courage to pop or toss it. In my case, that's a long time on the dresser.

Book lights

Happiness is... 

Book lights. No one awake? No problem. I can have my own little midnight party in the corner of the tent. I mean, it's not exactly a party when you're using the wee hours to read your graduate textbooks, but I like the feeling of getting it done regardless. So, sleep on, world. I won't disturb. I'll push the little toggle and read by the solitary little bulb of my companion. Good morning!

Sleeping Bags

Happiness is...

The way the sleeping bag holds all of your warmth with you. I like to cuddle in and zip it up to my chin. After that, nothing can escape my little forest green envelope.

The other amazing thing about sleeping bags is their properties in making you feel like a kid again. When I was a kid, my parents would almost always be forced to tuck me in tight. With ease, they'd stuff my sheets under my legs and into the nooks of my hips, and they'd kiss my forehead goodnight. I'm still missing that kiss, but I'm feeling pretty good about being trapped in two small feet of blanket room! I get some of my best sleep that way, despite the solid camp floor.

Hello Tettegouche, how I love you.

Legwarmers

Happiness is...

Legwarmers. So it's a frigid morning? Slip on the 1980s and solve your problem. Sweatpants may not cut it, but these babies will keep your calves toasty all day... now if only I could figure out what to about my thighs and my knees. I suppose calling them legwarmers is a little false, but my ankles aren't complaining!

Crack My Back!

Happiness is...

When your back gives way to a nice stretch or crack. Okay, this sounds silly, but I'm absolutely serious. I love cracking my back. No, I'm not talking about when you stretch and pop one vertebrae... I'm referring to the feeling of looking over your shoulder and having several loud cracks and amazing relief. Cracking my back has some great healing properties that I can't even begin to describe---so I won't try.

Instead, I'll just twist in my seat, let my spine do the work. It's been super susceptible to being cracked lately. I'm not sure why... but I'm not complaining.

Sun salutations

Happiness is...

Sun salutations. I'm sure I've already discussed my love for yoga, but I'd like to reiterate the benefit of waking up and doing a few sun salutations. Before anything, I like to ground myself, clear my mind, and prepare for the day. That's one more reason I love yoga.

Coming Out Day

Happiness is...

National Coming Out Day.
They deserve it. Today I celebrated by attending a Safe Zone training to help me be an ally to my colleagues and students. We discussed many facts about the discrimination and violence against LGBT individuals and how we can be the change. It was powerful. I believe there will be positive change in my generation's America. I am happy about this.


And it was a great way to undo yesterday's holiday. Columbus was not a hero. He did not discover America, nor did he start our nation. He exploited, enslaved, and murdered thousands of native peoples. Didn't know? Check it out.

Instead, today I honor people worthy of my admiration. My LGBT friends are truly heroic, and this training reminded me of that. I will likely be in awe until bedtime, warm and fuzzy to boot. Here's to you!

Running beyond my thoughts

Happiness is...

That moment you realize you've underestimated your own prowess! Like, for example... pushing yourself past the 15 minute mark, past the 20 mark, onto 25. Who said I couldn't run? Booya.

Now, if only my head would stop spinning.
I am woman. I am strong. I run like buffalo and sweat like dog.
Who are you?

Enjoy the weekend!!

Happiness is...

Doing homework for the first time all weekend. No, I have not been consumed with my reading. I put it aside and enjoyed myself the last couple days. And you know what? It feels awesome. So there.

Today, I have to be productive. I have several chapters to get through. But that's not the end of the world. I am happy to buckle down after a couple great afternoons. And I am able to wake up early and do it. Why? Because I wasn't stupid about my weekend. It was just right.

Yes, tomorrow's Monday, and the week gets going all over again. Boo. But for today, I am going to revel in my relaxation and get some of this done. No worries, just work. It's all about your attitude.

Apple Everything

Happiness is...

Most definitely Fall. It's my favorite time of the year for a multitude of reasons. One of these is apples. I love everything about them. I love orchards, I love cider, I like just eating them or baking them into pies, crisps, bars, and all of the above.

Honey crisp, zestar, braeburn, gala, or my new favorite sweet sixteen, I love to grab an apple and bite into its juicy goodness. And there's no better time than Fall for that. tonight it was a combination of all of this awesome, with an orchard, fruit dip, eating, and baking (the apple crisp was by far the best one I've made in years). Tomorrow, I shall continue. Just you wait.


So,what's your favorite part of Fall? Corn mazes (I love those too)? Photos (yeah, you know me)? Crunching the leaves (which I believe I've already written about)? Cuddling up for the first time in the year (I wish)? Back to school season (hehehe)? Or do you simply love it as much as I do?

Animated awesome

Happiness is...

Children's movies. I love animation. And I extra love it when people burst into song. That's why I will hold on to Disney til the day I die. Luckily, they are still making a good one here and there... sure, they've evolved to computer animation and adult humor, but sometimes I strike gold and there's an all-ensemble song and dance. Today, I watched Rio. My head bobbing, a smile creeping across my lips, I felt like a child again. If I don't find another one like that I just might break out Aladdin and Little Mermaid on DVD. Yeah, that's the life... singing along to my movies, dreaming of being a princess too. Don't judge.

Comments

Happiness is...

Comments.
Wall posts.
Likes.
Messages.
In this immediate, internet world it is so easy to go through the motions and become completely anonymous. Then someone takes you off guard and writes back. It's a little beacon of hope---"I see you, I know you're there... And I'm here too!"


Comments are a sweet reminder that you matter, at least to somebody. So thanks, somebody :)

Quotes (yes, another)

"A happy life is one spent in learning, earning, and yearning."

- Lillian Gish

Countdown

Happiness is...

A friendly countdown. Put a ticker on the computer desktop, fashion a paper chain, or whatever other idea you have... but make those days count leading up to the big event!

There are still 70 days until I see him again... probably too early for a paper chain, but never too early to start counting. 70 is a good number, a number I can handle. It's a number that'll fly by before I know it. You gotta love the sound of that. 

Travel

Happiness is...

Travel. It's one of my biggest passions... but I suppose I can't write a post every few days about it (what a shame). I have the heart of a foreigner!

I love experiencing new sights and getting a glimpse into a different culture... the language, the customs, the food, the people. When I was studying abroad I feel like I grew more in three months than I had in my 21 years before! I want to live my entire life in the mindset of a traveler, constantly exploring and learning. There is so much more to the world than our materialistic ignorant American background. I intend on looking into it all. I love trying new dishes, and I have a strong urge to continue with my language.

Traveling will always be a priority for me. Since I left Spain (and toured France, Italy, and Greece) I came home and have not left U.S. soil. It has now been over two years. Sure, I've visited South Dakota, Wisconsin, Colorado, Chicago, Texas, Kentucky, Tennessee... but it's about time for another stamp on my passport. I need to see more than the same life, different accent. I am beyond stir crazy.

That's why I'm so excited for Jamaica. What's happier?

Anniversary

Happiness is...

One and a half years. It has flown, that I am sure of. But these 18 months have been a blessing, filled with great memories and zero regret.

I love you David James.

Quotes cont.

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing & appreciating what we do have.”
- Frederick Keonig

Life lessons

Happiness is...

Learning important life lessons without significant consequences. They say it's best to learn from mistakes, but I disagree, slightly. We could all benefit if we learned from near-misses. You end up much more grateful that things worked themselves out and won't take it for granted! Example: try almost losing something, or misplacing it entirely for a few hours... when you rediscover it, not only will it be that much more valuable, but you'll be that much more careful with it. Lesson learned. Thank you, last night.

Pinot Grigio

Happiness is...

Pinot. Wash that spaghetti down with a glass of white wine, and your dinner will suddenly feel classy and wonderful. Sometimes, the cheaper the better. Studies have shown that even wine connoisseurs cannot taste the difference between a $7 bottle of wine and a $40 one anyway.

What's in a label anyway?

Objective: enjoy some adult pleasures. Indulge in fancy cheeses. Listen to Tchaikovsky. Drink some pinot grigio with dinner. And relax into your role as somebody special, important, and refined.

In Store Credit

Happiness is...

Returning things for in-store credit. It's money you won't waste in restaurants, on gas, just maybe on a disney movie or two... you tell me all I can get is in-store credit? That's okay, it's all I'd ever ask for anyway.

Cash is expendable, just keep looking on the bright side of life.

Halloween Sales

Happiness is...

Halloween candy sales. They mean chocolate overloads and afternoons nibbling on things made of processed sugar and corn starch. That's right, world. I have a weakness for candy corn. I love the thought of spreading the joy when it comes to trick or treating, and I love the idea of being someone besides me, just for a night!

It also means holiday season is approaching! The way retail goes Halloween stuff is on sale late September, Thanksgiving stuff is on the shelves the morning after Halloween, and Christmas is in full swing just hours after Thanksgiving, if not before (for the record, I do not like black Friday). I will be celebrating something until the end of the year now! AND even when January rolls around, it'll be just anticipation for another (semi) eventful Birthday! I'm ashamed to say that I am one of those people who is very forward thinking, but this is the perfect time of the year to embrace that fact. Welcome Halloween :)

Bedtime Talk

Happiness is...

A bedtime phone call. It was just like the old times, and just as satisfying. Spend an hour listening to each others' stories about the day, wish each other well throughout the rest of the week, and end the call ready for an awesome night of sleep... happy and refreshed.

An update from another family member...

Happiness is...

Happy Endings. http://www.ragom.org/avail.cgi/Available/dog?dog_id=4512
It wasn't easy to give Rusty up but I am so happy that he has found a new home!

Burt's Bees

Happiness is..

Burt's Bees. Earth friendly, natural personal care company. Natural ingredients with minimal processing. Especially in this age, I so appreciate companies that have come sort of sense of social responsibility. It's a gently little reminder that I am not the only remaining person who cares about the world.

The other interesting thing? Once you're a Burt's Bees consumer, you don't go back. I don't even use chapstick or blistex. I am far too attached to the good stuff. What is your fixation? Xbox? Ramen? Mine is a company that gives back.

Snail mail.

Happiness is...

Snail mail. I love correspondence. I enjoy receiving emails, seeing cute posts on social networking sites, or a nice long phone call. But nothing quite cheers up my day like opening a letter and reading a note from someone. There's something so personal about the old fashioned way of doing things, signed, sealed, delivered. If I could, I might even consider sending a telegram to tell someone I'm thinking of them.

Some days all I wish for is life to slow down a little, to be able to curl up for a short nap, to enjoy lunch with friends, and to take pleasure in the simpler things like postal stamps and cute stationary.

Besides, with deployment in full swing, it makes it so much more romantic and  picturesque if you're receiving handwritten notes, sending cards with your perfume sprayed on the envelope, and waiting in between. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE skype. But, I also love the era of Pride and Prejudice, or of Little Women, or of Singing in the Rain. Old school, yo. Just like love letters.

Whale Spouts

Happiness is...

Whale spouts. I mean, babies are cute to begin with! Put a little flailing ponytail on the top of their head and it's simply magical.

When I was younger I used to wear a whale spout. For years. It was my recipe for comfort. When my mom was out of town and my dad tried to take care of it I would wail with despair. Now, I'm past that. But my goddaughter sports the perfect little do! I love it.
Simple happiness.

Hello Autumn!

Happiness is...

The first day of fall! Man, does it ever feel like it. I woke up, made myself some toast and cocoa, and then crawled right back under my blankets. It's in the 40s outside, but I get to take shelter in my cozy little bedroom! (For now)... Soon I will venture out, and I better see at least 40 leaves on the ground as I make my way to campus. Crunch, crunch, crunch, and I'll be happily on my way!

It feels good to welcome fall in. Winter can hold off, but I love this season. Beyond words.

Sharing

Happiness is...

Sharing. Tonight my roommate made a large meal, and I was invited to partake! It makes my life that much easier, and it draws the two of us closer together... I love sharing meals, that's one of the only issues living in a two-bedroom with someone so committed to her boyfriend.

Sharing is caring. "In its narrow sense, it refers to joint or alternating use of an inherently finite good", to distributing things as they should be, to dividing blessings for the larger good. The world should consider sharing a little more... for now I'll enjoy sharing with loved ones around me.

Warm toes

Happiness is...

Tucking your feet into your body and feeling the warmth spread.

This morning was not extremely exciting. It was probably no more than 50 degrees outside and the rain was coming through (not down) in torrents. An umbrella didn't even help. My face was wet and my jeans were freezing into a stiff mass. I was sure that I was going to experience instantaneous pneumonia. Yes, in September.

Luckily, after I got to work after the long walk and got my clothes to dry off, I'm still able to slip out of my flats and stick my toes into the fold in my knees. It's the same concept as sticking my cold hands up the back of your shirt, though slightly less discomforting. Instead, it's nothing but pure joy, as my toes radiate with warmth and fit cozily into the crooks in my body. We were made to hold ourselves. Embrace throughout the frigid fall temperatures. Rejuvenate mid-day. And now here I am, warm and relaxed, sitting in a jumbled ball at my desk. It just doesn't get much better than this...

Crisp Dollar!

Happiness is... Crisp dollar bills. Usually this means they haven't been tainted by a million pockets, crumpled in sweaty hands, the like. Crisp dollar bills make me feel elated to be among the first in possession, and I'm usually inclined to treat them just a little bit nicer. I imagine the places they'll go after I'm done with them, but I don't have to ruminate about all of the horrid places they've been.

Have you ever handed over a large bill and received change in the form of disintegrating paper? It's not my favorite. Instead, I prefer it to be new, whole, and nice. It's the same way I prefer a lot of things in life, actually. I prefer them to not be beaten and torn. I'd prefer if I was a little less beaten and torn as well, but that's an entirely different story.

fuzzy blankets

Happiness is...

Fuzzy blankets. It's that time of the year, when I add some backup to the measly covers on my bed. Pull the blankets out of the closet, stretch them out on the bed, and add some weight and some warmth in the chilly apartment. And it's more than just an additional quilt. It is an extra-soft micro-plush cover. Instead of just bundling up and feeling okay about it, I get to scream excitement from every extremity. As I pull it up to my chin I am enveloped in a cave of amazing warmth. It makes my frigid toes more content, and as my fingers run through the wonderful fibers the rest of my body is happy as well. Sure, I don't want to get out of bed. But it's also that time of the year, when the nights are starting to get longer anyway. That must mean that we get more time to sleep, correct? Well, don't ruin my thunder just yet.

coffee (again)

Happiness is...

The second cup of coffee. Bring on my Sunday, I've got jitters to last to the end of the day! The first cup of coffee sure is nice and relaxing, but by the second cup I begin to feel like I can conquer anything.

No third. That's where I stop.

Disclaimer: technological difficulties stopped this from posting yesterday, my apologies!

another quote

"Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Abraham Lincoln

Ahead of schedule

Happiness is...

Getting ahead on reading. You likely do not understand what a colossal feat this is. Let me explain.

Graduate school is demanding and, at times, overwhelming. When I was at my interview the second year students told me that the work load was heavy and that they were always trying to keep up with reading. Because I was a 4.0 student in college and an ambitious young professional, however, this did not apply to me. I have always just been gifted. Man, did I underestimate this program. I have learned my lesson, pulled myself up by my bootstraps, and started working just as hard as the rest of them.

When my professor emailed us the assigned reading (approx. 200 pages) to be done by the first day of class---with only two days' warning mind you---reality slammed into me like a freight train. I have been struggling along the tracks ever since. But this afternoon, I finished a chapter that doesn't just get me to where I need to be next week, it gets me ahead. It's such a good feeling to be on top of my game! I feel like for once I can indulge in a little bit of a social life. Maybe I can even stop to cook a nice dinner. Regardless, I have time to breathe. Now, if only I can keep it that way. Here's to continued success with graduate schoolwork! Wish me luck.

Visitor!

Happiness is...

Visitors! Today I am receiving my first one. I am so excited to host her, and enjoy some good time with her. I just got the call that she's close. I am so giddy and childish. But I don't care. There are many things that make me excited, and this one is totally normal. Friends make the world go round, and the lonely heart full again.

Plans for the night: Cabaret show on campus. Pizza at blue bricks. Beer. Glee :) Cuddle? Yes please. Ahhhh, the warmth of old friends.

Advocacy

Happiness is...

A little bit of advocacy. This week class asked me to start an advocacy project. In the interest of time, viability, and fun, I started a blog for youth with brain injuries. Check it out: My blog

I suffered a brain injury in 2008. But I barely even feel like I suffered. That's why it's so cool to learn more about it and define the parameters of my true feelings. For now, please consider following along (and participating if you have a chance). We'll see if I make an impact. Then again, it goes back to this blog... you never know.

Resolution, still on.

Happiness is...

Keeping up with resolutions. Am I perfect? Definitely not... but I am 9 months in and I haven't forgotten quite yet. At least, I don't forget all the time.

I'm not sure the impact this journey has had on me. At times I feel like the only thing it means for my day is a waste of 5 minutes while I sit down and pound the keyboard. However, it's gotten me thinking. And who knows who I've made smile or what small things I've come to cherish. For more projects see: 1000 Awesome Things, Happiness Project, Postsecret, 365 Things to Do in the Twin Cities... Mine may not be that colossal, but it certainly keeps me on track.

Radio

Happiness is...

Streaming radio. It no longer matters that I am in graduate school 85 miles away from home... with modern technology and a good attitude, I can still listen to my favorite morning show, tune in for the best music, and rock out to what I am loyal to. That's the way I like it!

Besides, there's no good music in this town anyway. Thank you internet!

Prepare to Snooze

Happiness is...

That moment when you wake up and realize that you've already taken care of making a lunch, packing your bag, and planning your day. Turn off that alarm and get some more sleep!

p.s. Where were you 10 years ago?

It was second period and the TVs were on in every classroom. We watched the second plane hit and everything felt surreal. Things continued as normal in my little middle school, but people were subdued and shocked. There was nothing on TV that entire afternoon but the news coverage and Andy Griffith, and I remember thinking that they were being more dramatic than I could handle. Patriotism spiked. Fear swelled. And war started. A war we're still upset about, still trying to end. A war that would continue to kill more Americans and instill more terror.

It was second period when I knew something big had happened. I could never have imagined the impact, but I certainly witnessed the tragedy.

What's your memory like?

Quiet mornings

Happiness is...

This fresh Sunday morning. Sitting around in my peaceful apartment, enjoying my time, and for once in my week not being disrupted by the heffalumps upstairs.

Let me back up for a second. They're not actually the size of heffalumps, so that's not entirely fair. Or maybe that's why it bothers me even more, because I know the stomping and running and giggling that permeates my bedroom can be helped. Do you need to take 14 trips to the bathroom at 10pm? Certainly not. Do you need to stomp up your stairs screaming to the people you left in the parking lot at 1am? Dear God no. But you do it all anyway.

So yes, Ms. Creak-creak-bang-slam, I look forward to my Sunday mornings. Because they're all I've got to hold on to my sanity. They're my only escape from the echo of your bed frame or the pounding of your shower. Ahhh, sweet release.

Free tickets!

Happiness is...

All things free. Tonight, it's Miranda Lambert concert tickets. It makes the event so much better to know that it was gifted to you, purely for your enjoyment! After a long week in class and class all day today (yes, a seven hour Saturday class is a part of my grad school experience) this is just what the doctor ordered! Girls night with country music and a few drinks perhaps? I'll take it.

Tomorrow I can get back to reality. But for tonight I'd just like to pretend that I don't have to be studious and responsible. Bring it on.

Catching up...

Happiness is...

Chiropractic care. Holistic, healthy, amazing medicine. No, you do not need drugs or tests or diagnoses. Not today.

Not after the car accidents I've been through.

It's about time I get this attended to and start feeling better.

Raspberries

Happiness is...

Fresh raspberries. The greatest thing about going home for a weekend is that your parents may take pity on you and supplement your cupboards. Monday afternoon Mom gave me raspberries. That's even better than I had hoped! So all in all I was productive with schoolwork, finished a couple loads of laundry, stocked up on food, and came home with special treats. Happy Labor Day to me!

One downfall: seeds. But that's nothing compared to the juicy, fresh, sweet taste of those little berries. They're so refreshing and so delicious. Lunch is that much more amazing in the middle of my long day.

Productivity

Happiness is...

Early mornings to get things done before work. I thought I'd hate working at 10am, but instead I get to continue waking up at 7 or 7:30 and just having an extra couple hours to get my stuff together before the day begins. It's a little liberating.

Today I finally organized the last of my stuff in my new place, so it feels like home at last. That's an amazing feeling!

Rug beating

Happiness is...

Beating rugs. Hit them hard and get them clean. It's a pretty neat metaphor when you think about it. It takes a swift kick in the ass before we shake the dirt off.

I'm just saying.

the Bump in its glory

Happiness is...

Creative baby ideas! Today is a gender reveal party for a good friend. Here's what she's doing:

At her ultrasound on Thursday she had the doctor write down the baby's gender and seal it in an envelope. She is bringing that envelope to a bakery and asking them to bake the appropriate color into the insides of a frosted cake, that way she'll find out when we do as she cuts her cake! How did I never think of that?

She is the size of a naval orange. That's one more thing about babies that I am really fascinated by. I love comparing them to the sizes of produce, and I can't wait to hear what's next! I wonder if I'm more excited about this baby than she is... In any case, here we go!

Brunch

Happiness is...

Brunch! The best meal comes in two, and brunch is a combination of my favorites. Breakfast + Lunch = Awesome. Omelettes, fruit, and desert, all in and late morning. It is always delicious and often filling.

Today brunch is even better. I get to share it with my family. I missed this.

Drugs

Happiness is...

Antihistamines. Yes, I got a full night's sleep. AND I didn't even have to deal with allergies. Double whammy... It was amazing, you must admit your envy. Riddle me this: what other drug accomplishes so many amazing purposes? What legal drug?

The Help

Happiness is...

The Help. It was an awesome movie!
Possibly more awesome was the applause that arose from the theater during the credits... Vati hypothesized that it was due to white guilt. Funny thing is, I turned around and scanned the room---100% caucasian. Maybe he's not so far off.
What kinds of thoughts do you have about civil rights? Do you honestly think you'd have the courage to take a stand if you were raised in those times?

This semester in grad school is a lot of self-awareness and reflection. It's spilling into other areas of my life now. Still, I find it interesting to think about...

Music is my Medicine

Happiness is...

CD Sharing.

Having a bad day? I can recommend some pick me ups. OR I can hand you a CD that's always worked for me. There's nothing like it. When you have someone who has a bad day, pass it on. That's what one of my good friends did for me... and now I have who-knows-whose CD. But it fulfills its purpose when it puts that smile on my face...

"I think music in itself is healing. It's an explosive expression of humanity. It's something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we're from, everyone loves music." --Billy Joel
"Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything." --Plato
"One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain." --Bob Marley

Aug. 31st

Happiness is...

Getting a phone call from a deployed boyfriend. It almost felt like he wasn't overseas!

Yes, there IS an August 31st. Oops. Here's my update: I went to the mall, registered for baby stuff with a friend (which was VERY happy), ate a burrito, and hung out with people half the night. Did I get the homework done that I needed to? Not exactly. But it was every bit as therapeutic as I needed my evening to be. C'est la vie.

Yellow Carrots?!

Happiness is...

Yellow carrots. I saw them in the produce aisle and had no clue what to expect, but I am back in college now and college is the time to experiment right? Hehe. Anyway, they're awesome. End of story. They taste an awful lot like orange carrots, and they apparently still have all the awesome nutrients. AND.... they're cheaper... and organic.

So, I've come full circle. I am no longer afraid of yellow, in fact I think I'll crunch into one right now!

Sorry,,,

Sorry I suck lately.

Happiness has been hard to come by this month.

Good news: Thursday marks the beginning of September!

At that point, things better start looking up.

I'm serious.

Bleh.

For today happiness is long distance phone calls with long-time friends. There is nothing that makes you feel like the world is settling down like hearing from the other side of it.

Doggie bags

Happiness is...

When the leftovers taste even better than the original. Sure, this is rarely the case... But when it happens isn't it so satisfying? For a moment it nearly makes me want to eat everything from styrofoam and the microwave. Yum.

Baptism

Happiness is...

The joys of being a godmother. Today was the big day, and though I started off feeling scared and nervous, it was an amazing day. And now, congratulations to my dearest god-daughter Alejandra Soleil! I love you oodles :)

It was a short and very informal service, followed by a very scrumptious reception. And of course the whole family was truly beautiful. I couldn't have asked for more!

Other side of things

Happiness is...

Being on the other side of things. When I was young, I saw things from a young lens. I lived through it, thrived, and moved on. And now I am older and seeing things from the other side. It's a little weird, but mostly refreshing.

They say the grass is always greener on the other side. That may be true, but it doesn't mean you can't learn to appreciate the view. Now that I'm graduated and returning in a different capacity, of course things are different. But I love life all the same. I can still see people I enjoy, do the things that I liked, and live it up. This weekend is one of those times. I love my ladies!

Quotations, part IV

"Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others."

Martin Luther King, Jr

Softer highlights...

Happiness is...

Pastel highlighters. Sometimes that's all it takes to calm me down. Pass me the yellow? No thanks... I'd rather my eyes not itch. Instead, I can grab my light purple and make some subtle cues on the notes. Yep, much better.

Today has been a long day. The last thing I need is fluorescent.

Quick reflection

"But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a person and life they lead."

Albert Camus



Last night I started unpacking at last. Today I finished my first readings. Tonight I get to talk to my man again. If I'm lucky, tomorrow will be the start of my life settling down at last. This IS what it'll be the next two years. It's not everything I pictured, but it could be a heck of a lot worse. Bring on the rain.

Febreeze it.

Happiness is...

Febreeze. Have a funky smell in your room and maintenance STILL hasn't come? Not a problem. open the nozzle and let it rip. It'll buy you easily a week.

This apartment sucks. But it doesn't mean I can't make it mine.

Yikes, my body.

Happiness is...

When you get complimented on your weight loss... even though it's been two weeks since you worked out. Story of my life. I WILL get back into my groove soon (just like I WILL go grocery shopping soon), but until then I'll continue to soak it up that my body hasn't taken a turn for the worse just because I've neglected it a little. Some days I worry.

Who am I kidding? I worry almost every day I'm alive and breathing. But, bottom line, I'm motivated to keep this up.

Blessed with friends

Happiness is...

The fact that even though things seem to be difficult, there will always be some friend who can help take the load off. Tonight I had a friend cook me dinner knowing that I couldn't do it for myself (this damn apartment!). And that's all it takes to know that God is watching over me, even when the going gets tough.

It's not a great time in my life. But He keeps reminding me there are great things to hold on to! Thank you Sir.

Girls Weekend

Happiness is...

Time with sisters... time to make everything seem a little less crazy. They're good for that!

It's getting there...

Happiness is...

Maintenance! They came... at least we know we're not left in this apartment to rot. Fixed the fan today, linoleum tomorrow, and oven and carpet hopefully next week. Progress, it feels so good!

Bananas

Happiness is...

Eating my bananas without feeling self-conscious. Yes, I am that girl who has to turn the other way so you don't watch the act. Bananas, hot dogs, popsicles, they make me feel awkward automatically.

Is that weird? Am I alone in this world?

Or did the movies really just screw me up that much?
Drives me bananas sometimes... ;)

Weekend

Happiness is...

Knowing that the weekend is coming. After all, after Tuesday even the calendar says WTF. This weekend, I am getting out of here... ignoring the still-not-fixed apartment, and heading to a cabin with some sisters. Anticipation is what will get me through the next two days. Yay weekend!

Chivalry

Happiness is...

Chivalry. I don't care what anyone says, it is definitely not dead....nor does it go against any of my feminist beliefs.

So, boys, keep holding doors, excusing yourselves, letting us go first, etc. Flowers are not for just hopeless romantics (although, my dear, there are still a few of those out there still too ;) am I right?).

Make me feel like a lady.

A home is not a home...

Happiness is...

Knowing that, no matter what your environment is, you can change it. Hate work? You can always go home after it. For me, it's the opposite. Home won't be home for another few weeks of heavy work, but I love everything else about life. And that's a good feeling. Take it in stride, have a little perspective, and know that this too shall pass.

Yup, that's all I've got for ya. Nothing too deep or wonderful, but a simple revelation that I will be holding on to while this is my reality.

The Potter's Hands.

Happiness is...

The potter's hands. Today church was super amazing. They brought a guest preacher/potter in and he actually throws a huge vase during his talk so he can walk us through this sweet metaphor. God always said we are the clay but now I feel like I see that whole concept from a brand new set of eyes. You see, we start out as a hunk of ugly piece of earth and it's not until we actually are centered in the lord that we can begin to become something beautiful... I'm not sure how much you know about pottery, but if the pot starts off wobbly it just gets worse and worse until it flies off the wheel... Then he brought up how the potter has this great intent for us and starts to work on us from the inside. No one else can really see this work from sitting in the audience, but it is the most important step to becoming a vase because it hollows the bottom and sets the foundation to pull up the cylinder. When you watch a potter do this it really is spectacular, seeing a small mound become a tall, cylindrical mass. However, this cannot happen unless it's under pressure from the hands of the potter. Even once it's there, there are bigger plans too (though it looks great, it isn't the best piece of work yet). The potter swells the vase to create a piece of art. And only then is it fired. Imagine the process of the kiln, putting pieces in and bricking up the entrance, they endure high high temperatures and it seems dark and lonely but the potter is not far away, just outside the door adjusting the levels, watching the pots strengthen to the perfect amount. Do you follow that whole process? Can you picture the vase? Now imagine that as us, in our process of life. The end product is a solid vase, beautiful and ready to withstand the weathers. That is what I experienced this morning. Total mind blow. That was true happiness, sitting right there.

Demo Derby

Happiness is...

Demolition derbies. Tonight was my first. Naturally, I had a million questions about those cars, and did you know after the derby they fix them up and smash them again? That experience is out of this world, and I recommend it to anyone. Awesome.

It rained. It got muddy. That made it all the better. I bet my old car will never be souped up enough to compete, but it was neat to see what kinds of beasts they had salvaged and put on the track.

No matter where you're from or what you like, you have to see it.

In short...

Sorry I'm behind, but I can tell you one thing: Happiness would not exist if I didn't have the amazing family and friends that I do. Simple enough. You must get it.

New job!

Happiness is...

Filling up the coffee cup, knowing you're on your way to a new job! This means:
- new experiences
- new things to learn
- new people to meet
- new successes
- new stories
- new space
- new persona.

Advisor Kristy, at your service!

This too shall pass.

Happiness is...

The weight off your shoulders. Decision: made. Car: bought. Debt: still accruing. But for the time being, I can rest easy knowing that I have a replacement for poor Antonio that will get me going to grad school.

It's not always easy, but it's always going. Things come and go, with the ebb and flow of life. And, really, life goes on. I am seriously satisfied too. A good find with perfect timing from a dealership with real integrity. Thanks for all the prayers!

Still hoping and praying.

Happiness is...

When you tell someone your issues and they literally stop what they're doing and pray... right there, right then. Sometimes we get so caught up agonizing or sympathizing that we forget to just stop and send out some words of encouragement, to put it back in God's hands.

I need a reminder to trust in God, especially right now. Only he can make things work. Right now it may seem like things just aren't, but that's what faith is all about.

p.s. for any of you on the interwebs who actually read this blog, someone ran into me and totaled my car on Friday. You can feel free to gift me one at any moment. Or send out a little prayer on your end, I need them all!

Trying to find the bright side

Happiness is...

Laughing after a long cry. It makes the cry seem so much better and the laugh so much happier. Live life with a little perspective and keep pushing through.

Clarity at last!

Happiness is...

Skype head sets. Happiness is finally understanding my man when he is talking to me instead of hearing some garbled charlie-brown type vocals, instead of feeling like he's speaking to me underwater.

Happiness is a real, nice, conversation. Granted, it's going to be a little bitter for a while, but things will get better and skype talks will remain great.

Drugsssss

Happiness is...

Anti-anxiolitics.

Sorry... it's just...

Happiness is...

Difficult to find today. Sorry to let you down...

Let's just go with learning about other religions. That was fun at least. Happiness will return on an undisclosed date. For now, pray.

Don't Forget the Lyrics

Happiness is...

When you finally remember the lyrics to the tune that's been stuck in your head. It's like being freed from bondage, from a long day of "I KNOW this! uhhhh..." And though that damn song is still stuck in your head, at least it's finally complete.

At the Car Wash....

Happiness is...

Washing the car. It makes me feel like I'm taking care of things, getting stuff done, being a man. Wait, what? Exactly. I enjoy putting on my bikini, scrubbing my car, and heaving the vacuum hose around the carpet. Best part? After I've worked my tail off and gotten wet and dirty, I can look at the car and see it as nearly brand new again! Smooth, shiny, and clean... I am ready for another season with my dear Antonio. Yes, that's his name. He's silver and a little rough around the edges, and delightfully Spanish. How did you spend your sunny day after all?

Underwear

Happiness is...

Underwear. Tonight we went to the history center for a free outdoor concert and while we were there we checked out the exhibits... about the depression, minnesota, and underwear. It was interesting to see how far we've come in the last century, and my appreciation for it grew tenfold! I gave my underwear far too little credit. It comes in all shapes and sizes, many fabrics, and wonderful colors. That's my story, in brief... ;)

Speaking of outdoor concerts, did I mention my affinity for them? I sure will miss summer in the cities.

The right stuff

Happiness is...

When you're feet are cold as you crawl into bed. Nothing says sleep tight like wrapping yourself in a warm cozy blanket... And in the middle of the summer it's best with cold feet, you know? Mmmm I'm just gonna let myself get comfortable now. Buenas noches!

HIMYM

Happiness is...

How I met your mother. Friends ran an amazing ten seasons. And after it was all over (and I rewatched each season a half dozen times) I wasn't sure I'd ever love again. Not until Ted, Marshall, Barney, Lily, and Robin came along. What can I say, they won my heart. They have brought redemption to national television. And they give me a new sitcom to take pleasure in. It may sound superficial to ba so attached to fictional characters. Well, it is. What do you have to say about it? I like my life. Get over it.

Theatre

Happiness is...

Theatre. It was part of my past life, but I loved it regardless. Even now reminiscing, it does wonders for my mood.

beach

Happiness is...

The beach... Ahhhh... some vitamin D and a little healthy people watching!

Motorcycles

Happiness is...

Motorcycles. What better way to celebrate the summer than with a little wind in your hair and some bounce in your step?

waking up before the alarm

Happiness is...

When you wake up two minutes before your alarm. This morning, that was the case. I rolled over and opened my eyes, with perfect timing, and never had to have the ringing in my ears. When your biological clock is set right, that is bliss. When you don't have to snooze and snooze and snooze some more, it's a relief. And when you bounce out of bed rejuvenated like this, nothing can get your down. Today is a good day already... and I've barely even started yet!

brownie bites

Happiness is...

Brownie Bites.

They're almost guilt free! Just another miniature snack, gotta catch 'em all! Brownie bites are special because they give you the appropriate amount of succulent dessert without and regrets. Tonight, I had two---still not feeling bad about it either!

Grandma

Happiness is...

Grandmas.
Mothers without consequences.
Lenses into the past.
Cookie jars, recipe books, yum.
Friendly family storybook.
Comedic relief and Wisdom in a convenient little package.
And I mean little :)

I love you Grandma!

Thai food

Happiness is...

Thai food. Any foreign food really.

Every time I go to another country I try to experience something new. Unfortunately, I can't afford to go to another country for a while. Instead, I settle for little restaurants in the city. I love foreign food because it gives a flavor beyond my normal pallet and it gives me the tiniest glimpse into another life.

We got thai. And I had enough leftovers to enjoy it for 2 days! Incredible.

Polished and ready for my night...

Happiness is...

Red Hot Red nail polish. It's a real color, and it makes me automatically real sassy. Watch out Minneapolis! I am polished and ready for my night. Wherever it takes me, I've got my red fingernails. See you soon.

Tonight is a ladies night downtown. I am excited and a little nervous but mostly excited. My friends make my world go round.

PayDay!

Happiness is...

Paychecks. It's a sad truth... they make the world go round.

Ellen

Happiness is...

Ellen Degeneres.

Comedian, Actress, and most importantly TV Host. Today was a rare day when I was still poking around at home around 9am, so I was able to catch the Ellen show. With Mila Kunis, Justin Timberlake, and Lady Gaga, it was a great choice for my morning. After that hour, nothing could get me down! She's won thirteen emmys for a reason.

I think there are few shows on television today with great characters and a good message. Ellen is awesome because she can make my gut hurt from laughter, or she can touch my heart. Plus, she's got great celebrity friends! I'll never be that cool, so for now I'll just settle for being a loyal fan.

And, if you didn't hear, she's moving to afternoon this fall to take Oprah's place. That's right, my Ellen will be the new Oprah! <3

Frequent buyer cards

Happiness is...

Frequent buyer cards. And why not reward me after my seventh cup of coffee? I don't care if it's a marketing scheme, it works. And I'll enjoy the next six cups of joe. Congratulations, you have my undying loyalty!

Rain=Relief

Happiness is...

When the rain breaks the heat; in a hot mid afternoon, it sometimes gets hazy on the horizon. People can begin to lose hope, and then suddenly... downpour. Relief. Haze watered down by nature's bliss.

On a day like today, we deserved it.

On happiness (part 2)

"The happy think a lifetime short, but to the unhappy one night can be an eternity."

Lucian

Air Conditioning

Happiness is...

Air conditioning. I never realized how good I had it until it was gone, and now I'm sitting at work sweating through my t-shirt, eagerly anticipating the moment I get home and can crank it up. Heat index of 115 and no a/c at school OR on the commute? No thank you. What the heck, mother nature?! Relief comes in T-minus two hours!

p.s. This is post #200 in my blog :) Go me!

Beach

Happiness is...

The beach. Sunny sandy wonderful. It's the great combination of soaking up some Vitamin D and soaking in the water just having some fun. And yes, I was even there today. Heat index of 115 can't get me down!

We drove with the windows down, we splashed around and spread our towels out wide, and we left very happy.

p.s. the beach is my absolute favorite spot to people watch, if you were wondering...

Skinny Cow

Happiness is...

Skinny Cows. Yummmmmm!

No, I don't encourage starving your livestock. I'm referring instead to the low cal ice cream bars, guilt free desserts... They're a great invention, and they make my life and little indulgences so much better :) They come in classic vanilla, mint, cookies and cream, and many others. They melt in your hand and you're left licking off each fingertip. Don't worry though, I'm usually smiling when I do so!

I recommend them if you get a chance to wander through your local freezer section, summer will be easier. Just trust me.

Blanket of Cat

Happiness is...

When you're cuddled by a cat on one side, and another on the other. Who needs a blanket when you have furry balls of wonderful?

It's nicest when it's evened out. That's why I recommend two cats.
One for each leg/arm/side.
One for each hand.
Two companions.
Two is better than one!

And no, I'm not just that greedy.

awake with time to spare

Happiness is...

Extra time in the morning. Time to wake up, time to be me. Today, there's plenty.

So many people awake to late alarms and rush around the house. Not I. I prefer to wake up with ample time to get on my game, eat breakfast (yum!) and dawdle in the morning. So what if I miss that extra 20 minutes of sleep? I get to savor the joy of the early dawn, birds chirping, quiet breeze. And this is all coming from someone who is absolutely NOT a morning person to boot.

There's just something to be said about quiet. Reflection. Time. Breakfast.

Laughing

Happiness is...

When you laugh so hard your jaws/cheeks start to hurt.

Happy Hours

Happiness is...

Happy Hours. Having a rough day at work? Don't worry, there are beer specials created to make you "happy". And trust me, they do. Go chill out with some coworkers or some good friends and unwind. You deserve it.

Cuddled by Cats

Happiness is...

Cats who get in your face even when you think you don't want them there... you never know when you'll need them there.

Mine are thus inclined, and as annoyed as I sometimes get I can't help recognizing the sheer heartwarming nature that they provide. I love cuddling them, I love getting fed up by them cuddling me. I especially love waking up with a face full of them. I am loved.

Sleep

Happiness is...

Sleep timers.

Want to watch a couple episodes of sitcom abc before you go to bed? Well, feel free. But by God, you don't have to leave your tv on until the wee hours of the morning. No, you don't, not when you can push a quick button and let your tv turn itself off. Don't bother waking up, getting up, walking over to the box and giving it up... not when you can set the timer for 30 minutes and roll over. Roll over into a great night's sleep. And we know what good sleep does to us---wake up happy, why don't you?

Libraries

Happiness is...

Libraries.

Seriously, who sat down one day and decided that the whole world should just share books? It's a brilliant idea. Just down the street you can find resources, services, and sources, all for common use. Even if you don't find exactly what you're looking for, they can retrieve it for you from another building.

So few things these days are really communal, but I know if I want to get a good read I can just borrow it from the library. All for free. Tell me something that can even compare.

baby animals

Happiness is...

Baby animals. They're ALL so adorable!

We have an enclosed courtyard at the school I work at, and there is a family of ducks living inside of it (babies can't fly til 7 weeks). It provides basically an observation deck for the family interaction, and I'm enjoying it thoroughly! I only wish we could do a better job of taking care of them... for the time being, I will watch the action!

After all, this is the time... the end of spring and beginning of baby season. Kittens, puppies, goslings, ad now ducklings. Just wonderful.

Word games

Happiness is...

Scrabble. I like words. I like games. Why not combine them?
Bananagrams... peel, peel, peel, bananas!
Words with friends. OH WORDS WITH FRIENDS!

Word games keep me on my toes, and they very easily keep me happy.

Don't give me no chess, no checkers, just give me my tiles.

Til your feet hurt...

Happiness is...

When you're having so much fun you barely even notice your feet start to hurt. Muscle pain is caused by working your body, and if I dance so much I ache that can't possibly be a bad thing, correct? I love Wednesday nights, and going out with my girls, and moving. Let it rock.

Photo booth

Happiness is...

Photo booths. Make up a few cheesy smiles and get ready..
Pose.

Pose.

Pose.

Pose.
Here's your strip of happy. Thanks for coming.

Fireworks

Happiness is...

Fireworks. After all, today is the day for celebrations with pyrotechnics. Tubes are filled with combustible materials, preparing to blow noise, light, color, and even confetti. In other words, firework displays are literally happiness in a neat little package.

Did you know that they were invented by the Chinese in the seventh century to scare away evil spirits?

Fireworks give me the rare chance to simply relax and enjoy some bright lights. Accompanied by some "Ooos" and "Aaahs", it's a timeless afternoon. Have a good holiday all, and find a great show!

So many things to be happy about.

Happiness is...

A million things. Friday marked six months of this blog, six months of finding the little things in life that make me happy. Six months of reminding myself what I'm grateful for. AND today marks fifteen months with Dave... all these months and I still am forgetting things. This weekend has been happy. Here's a glimpse:

Happiness is air conditioning. After a heat index of 111 at school, 250 kids, 6 hours, and no air, it was one of the things I was most looking forward to Friday afternoon. Heck, my car doesn't even have A/C. So when I arrived home it was truly glorious, and I appreciated it tenfold.

Happiness is 3D glasses, and popcorn with real butter. Get lost in the scene and Get full on buttery goodness. It's a good idea, and especially on those days of 111 heat index. ;)

Happiness is sugar free lattes...

Happiness is Bananagrams. Happiness is beginner's luck. Happiness is a nice afternoon with enough games to keep you busy. Happiness is enjoying summer without hours of television. Happiness is NOT goodbyes, but I'm ready.

Six months and six to go. Have a happy afternoon!

Foreign Food

Happiness is...

Thai Food.

In fact, I love all foreign food. But up there in my priorities is a good pad thai or pad see yew. Mmmm. Today we got some, and then we had the leftovers for dinner. What could be better than twice in a day?

A very relaxing weekend, I must tell you. You should try it sometime.

One more thing...

"Happiness is something that comes into our lives through doors we don't even remember leaving open."

Rose Wilder Lane

Lessons from the Last Lecture

Happiness is...

The last lecture. A lot of professors give talks titled “The Last Lecture.” Professors are asked to consider their demise and to ruminate on what matters most to them. And while they speak, audiences can’t help but mull the same question: What wisdom would we impart to the world if we knew it was our last chance? If we had to vanish tomorrow, what would we want as our legacy?

When Randy Pausch, a computer science professor at Carnegie Mellon, was asked to give such a lecture, he didn’t have to imagine it as his last, since he had recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer. But the lecture he gave—“Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams”—wasn’t about dying. It was about the importance of overcoming obstacles, of enabling the dreams of others, of seizing every moment (because “time is all you have...and you may find one day that you have less than you think”). It was a summation of everything Randy had come to believe. It was about living. Here are some of my favorite pieces of advice.

-If you can dream it, you can do it.
-Get in touch with your childhood. Play.
-Be prepared. All you have is what you bring with you. Always bring something to the table, because it will make you more welcome.
-Be a communitarian. Your rights are accompanied by your responsibilities.
-Look for the best in everybody.
-Watch what they do, not what they say.
-Don't complain, just work harder. Complaining doesn't work as a strategy, and the time we spend whining is unlikely to help us succeed. It won't make us happier.
-Never give up.
-Time must be explicitly managed, like money. Time is all you've got. And you may find one day that you have less than you think.
-A bad apology is worse than no apology.
-If nobody ever worried about what was in other people's heads, we'd all be 33 percent more effective in our lives and on our jobs.
-Go out and do for others what someone once did for you (pay it forward).
-You can always change your plan, but only if you have one.
-If at first you don't succeed, try again. Don't be afraid. The person who failed often knows how to avoid future failures.
-Sometimes with the passage of time and the deadlines that life imposes, surrendering is the right thing to do. Life. Is. Too. Short.
-Just because you are in the driver's seat doesn't mean you have to run people over.

Fruity wine

Happiness is...

A good glass of fruity wine on a warm sunny night.

Remind yourself that it's summer, that you have the entire evening ahead of yourself, and that you deserve this. Because you do. Sit on your deck, kick up your heels, and love yourself!